Soul Midwifery in Ipswich and Suffolk
"Soul Midwives are non-medical, holistic companions who guide and support the dying in order to facilitate a gentle and tranquil death.
A good death is an extraordinary, moving and sacred experience. It can also have a healing quality, not only for the person who is involved but their families, friends and the wider community."
Felicity Warner, founder of the Soul Midwife movement.
Everyone dies, that is certain, but there are "good" deaths and not so good deaths. Most of us, if we even think of it at all, hope to die pain free and probably at home, surrounded by loved ones. But for many, this is not what happens. Most modern deaths, happen in a hospital or if you are lucky a hospice. They are at best efficient, but clinical, insititutionalised and soul-less. Surrounded by machines, harsh lights, strangers and usually over-medicalised.
Soul Midwives ensure that death is a dignified and peaceful experience for the dying person and their family and friends.
In ancient and traditional cultures worldwide, death and dying has always been regarded as an important rite of passage, like birth, an initiation, a journey to another dimension. Modern Soul Midwives have been taught these ancient skills and traditions and apply them to our modern world, using them to ease the passage of those who are dying.
Soul Midwives lovingly assist and accompany a dying person on their journey and can provide their services within a person's home, a hospital or a hospice.
Ideally, the Soul Midwife would work with the person dying from the diagnosis of a terminal illness and help them to think about what sort of death they would like and to make plans to put this in place. They would help to explain to their family and friends their wishes and help them in all the various situations that occur during this time.
Obviously, this cannot happen always but a Soul Midwife can help in the final days or hours even if there has not been a long illness.
In 2015 I trained with Felicity Warner at the Soul Midwives School in Dorset. I have volunteered my complementary therapies at my local hospice in Ipswich for four years and last year had the sacred honour and privilege to use my Soul Midwifery skills to help my parents in their final weeks. It was one of the most sacred and holy times of my life. They both passed very peacefully and I am certain that all the skills I had learnt with Felicity helped them and myself so much.
Please email me or call for a confidential meeting to discuss your needs.
The 12 Principles of Soul Midwifery
1. To work as non-medical holistic companions who guide and support a dying person in order to facilitate a gentle and tranquil death.
2. To support and recognise the individual needs of the dying person and ensure they feel loved and supported.
3. To create and hold a sacred and healing space for the dying person (whether in a hospital, hospice or at home).
4. To respect and honour a dying person's religious/spiritual or atheist/agnostic beliefs and practices.
5. To work as non-denominational multi-faith practioners who honour the dying person's beliefs about, life, death or the afterlife.
6. To listen, provide gentle therapeutic techniques, and ensure compassionate care at all times.
7. To 'serve' our friend* , not aim to 'fix' or 'rescue'.
8. To give healing, using sound, touch, colour, scented oils or other gentle techniques to alleviate pain and anxiety.
9. To keep a loving vigil.
10. To work holistically with the spirit and soul of our friends at all level and stages of transition.
11. To support families and thier loved ones, giving loving care with a human touch.
12. To provide comfort, continuous support and reassurance in helping a dying person to experience the death he or she wants.
* Please note that Soul Midwives refer to the dying patient as a "friend", not a patient.